Updated: Jan 20, 2019
“If you ain’t first, you’re last” -Ricky Bobby
Growing up my mom would tell me all the time, “Ciegi you’re so selfish, you don’t care about anybody but yourself and how you can get ahead.” And at the time, I remember thinking: “Well, DUH, girl. I want to be the best,
I want to come out on top. Me, myself, and I. That’s the priority.”
As I got older, I became more aware of other people and their success. Although I wanted others to get it, I never wanted them to be more poppin’ than me. There was always this need to constantly prove myself and my abilities. I wanted others to win, but not more than me. Ultimately, there could only be one winner- and I was that one.
As millennials, we’ve grown up with the thought, “If you’re not first, you’re last.” In the literal connotation that makes absolute sense; however, that mindset can be detrimental to progression. As I’ve gotten older and grown to be more attentive to life and its lessons, I’ve come to realize that there can be more than one winner. You can win, and you can help your sister(or brother) win, too. But, how does one get to that level of understanding?
The answer is simple-find your purpose, pursue it passionately and stay in your own [MF] lane.
I’m a firm believer that there will always be a lane for you even if it already seems occupied. When you’re in flow and in alignment, things will open up and a path will be cleared. You just have to learn to be still and listen.
So, how does one find the stillness I speak of and the capacity to listen:
Meditate: I recommend the early morning, but whenever you are most alert works. Yes it will be weird as hell at first, but practice makes perfect.Solitude: Often. Nobody knows you like yourself, so get comfortable that person; you’ll learn more about yourself in these moments.Pray: Pray for guidance and wisdom to use your gifts in the right way. We all have something unique to offer the world. Tap into your magic.
And that’s how it starts. You focus on you, you clap for your peers, you stop looking so haterish, and soon enough you’ll be in the lane designed for you.
Then, and only then will you truly follow in the advice of Brother Jay Rock and “WIN”
With love always,